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My name is Ramya. I am 30 years old. My sister is 5 years older than me. She had married before 15 years ago. She has no child. Doctor confirmed that she can't be carry a child. They suffered a lot without having a child. I am not interested in marriage although my family compelled for my marriage. But I refused it. Two years ago, one day my sister came to me and cried a lot for not having child. She asked me to give birth a child for her husband. First I refused her. After that she came daily and cried lot. My family also suggests me to do that for my sister since you are not going to marry, then why you can't carry a child for your beloved sister. Then I agreed to carry a child only through artificial insemination. We consulted a doctor. She checked my body and I am good condition for artificial insemination. But the cost of charge she told in lakhs. We are poor family we can't pay that amount. We have also consulted two three doctors but the result is same. My sister started weeping. This time she becomes very serious since she has a faith having a child by me and it suddenly broken. She was affected mentally and physically. I feel pity of my sister. I can't able see the condition of my sister. she didnt eat for a week. i went to see her. by seeing her condition i asked what you want. she asked to promise to gave birth a child by love with her husband. then only, I accepted to my sister to carry a child for her husband by having love with her husband. I thought for one day only we have to love with him.she also told me just one day only you have to sacrifice. But the condition is different. but some body told me you cant be pregnant in one day.. so please help me. is there any way to pregnant by having one day love? or atleast how many days i have to love with him. please help me soon as possible. i have thought so many days about this matter. i have taken a decision to help my sister. so no advice regarding my condition.

Guest asked on 03 Aug '12 at 11:11

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Ravi answer on 03 Aug '12 at 20:07

you have love love for 1 month

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Krish g answer on 10 Sep '12 at 01:22

New mothers must take special care of their bodies after giving birth and while breastfeeding. This page is dedicated for mothers, please go through important information and tips given to take care of yourself. Take Rest The first few days at home after having your baby are a time for rest and recuperation, physically and emotionally. You need to focus your energy on yourself and on getting to know your new baby. Even though you may be very excited and have requests for lots of visits from family and friends, try to get as much rest as possible. Try to lie down or nap while the baby naps. Don't try to do too much around the house. Allow others to help you and don't be afraid to ask for help with cleaning, laundry, meals, or with caring for the baby. Changes in your Body: After the birth of your baby your doctor will talk with you about things you will experience as your body starts to recover. Possible Changes in your Body: Spotting or bleeding, like a menstrual period off and on for up to six weeks. May have swelling in your legs and feet. Reduce swelling by keeping your feet elevated when possible. Constipation. Drink plenty of water and eat fresh fruits and vegetables. Menstrual like cramping is common, especially if you are breastfeeding. Your breast milk will come in within three to six days after your delivery. Even if you are not breastfeeding. Recommendation: Abstain from loveual intercourse for four to six weeks after birth. Before resuming loveual intercourse, talk with your doctor about your plan for birth control since you can become pregnant again. Changes in Weight and Shape of Your Body: Both pregnancy and labor can affect a woman's body. If you are trying to lose some additional pregnancy weight, make sure you do it in a healthy way and consult your doctor before you start any type of diet or exercise plan. If you want to diet and are breastfeeding, it is best to wait until your baby is at least two months old. Do not lose too much weight quickly. This can be harmful to the baby because environmental toxins that are stored in your body fat can be released into your breast milk. Losing about one pound per week has been safe and will not affect your milk supply or the baby's growth. Feeling Sad and Depressed: You may feel sad or depressed. This is normal following childbirth. Fifty to 75 percent of new mothers feel a little sad or depressed after giving birth. Your hormone changes, anxiety about caring for the baby, and lack of sleep all affect your emotions. Be patient with yourself. These feelings are normal and should get better over time. Be aware of your feelings and talk with your family, friends, and your doctor. If you are extremely sad or are unable to care for yourself or your baby, Consult Doctor. It may be a serious condition called postpartum depression. This condition can be successfully treated with medicine and/or therapy. Symptoms of postpartum depression : Restless or irritable Sad, depressed or crying a lot Difficulty in focusing, remembering, or making decisions Feeling worthless and guilty Having no interest or getting no pleasure from activities like love and socializing No energy Headaches, chest pains, numbness, or hyperventilation Sleepless, being very tired, or both Overeating and weight gain

Saiveera answer on 11 Jul '14 at 18:27

Please read my very personal heartwrenching experience before taking such a crucial decision. My dear pls don't opt for abortion unless your life is in danger. After 15 yrs I am greatly repenting it. We have been going through lot of pain and suffering for opting for abortion. After terminating the pregnancy we returned home not still realizing what we had done. All of our pain and suffering began and here is the sequence of all major ones In 1997 our son fell all the way down from 10-15 staircase and was rushed to the hospital to make sure his head was Okay. BY God?s grace he only had a huge bump in front of his head In 1998 our son (who was 8 years old) suddenly had appendicitis and had to rush him for surgery. In 1999 our daughter had suddenly fainted and had a seizure in a church gathered for some school event. We were totally terrified as to what caused it so suddenly. A lot of tests were done and discovered that a tapeworm entered her brain although she is very careful with eating food but just didn?t know how she got it. Everyone was puzzled. We were completely traumatized by this terrible attack. She went through a lot of emotional and physical pain and suffering. Fluid was drawn from her back for further diagnosis. She was put on powerful neurological medicines and it took her along time to recover. In April 2000 I went for a colonoscopy because the doctor suggested it due to my stomach problems and my colon was perforated. He sent me home and told me eat not realizing he perforated me. Right after eating I got severe pain and chills and was rushed to the hospital. The doctor wanted to just put me on antibiotics instead of doing surgery which resulted in the infection spreading and ended with peritonitis which was excruciating painful like hell. I had to be rushed for emergency surgery to repair the colon. After the surgery I developed several complications, Suddenly my pulse was going down and they had to put me on Oxygen and discovered that I had fluid in my lungs so they aspirated the fluid with a needle which was very painful. Everyday a needle was poked in my stomach to prevent blood clotting. I was still not getting better, I had fever and chills and they discovered I had a infection and I was treated for that. I was in the hospital for 15 days. Every single day I was poked by needles. That is very unusual in America. Meanwhile my husband and children were really going through a lot emotionally and trying to manage everything without me. In 2001 our son suddenly developed a foot problem and his ankle was swollen and he had to go for surgery to fix the problem. It was a very long recovery process. He was in crutches for 2 months and my husband was giving him bath everyday. It was very painful for us to see our son suffer so much In 2002 my husband had problem with a gland in his neck and a biopsy was done and by god?s grace everything was normal. In 2003 I had to get my galbladder out as it got inflamed during my original surgery. I had complications during this surgery too and lost lot of blood and in addition I was worried about my daughter situation. In 2004 I was rushed to the hospital for severe stomach pain and it was some kind of stomach virus. In 2005 I had to go for surgery to get the incisional hernia repaired which developed as a consequence of the original surgery. Both my husband and I realized that all this pain and suffering is because of the heinous crime we committed. We are getting solace from prayers and visiting the pilgrimage places as Badrinath, Kedarnathand and Vaishno Devi and taking bath in Holy river Ganges. We are willing to take any punishment given to us but begging God to not punish our children. We are deeply and genuinely repenting the blunder we committed and it was not intentional but due to sheer ignorance. Children are a bundle of joy and terminating pregnancy will haunt you for the rest of your life. I think we were not in the right state of mind when we took that decision. Our pain and suffering continues to this day. I can never ever forgive myself for what I did. 2..... Consult a gynecologist immediately before she takes anything. It is very dangerous for both the baby and the mother to do anything on your own at this stage of pregnancy. If you are a good person you will take care of her and do the right thing and your life will also be good. Did you even think for a minute how lucky you are that this didn't happen to you when you were in your mother's womb. How can you contemplate such terrible thought. Why have love and get your girl friend or wife pregnant when you are not ready to have a baby and take the responsibilty. Why don't you take proper precautions. Try to lead a life that is morally & ethically right. Do you have a conscious and a heart? Are you not a human being? Do you know that abortion means killing a baby that is yet to be born. You may think that you are having a great time and lot of enjoyment now but remember you will have to suffer & face consequences in future for your actions now. Why do want to accumulate so much bad karma. Pls read all my responses and messages on this matter before you decide to take this drastic step. If you search for saiveera in the search box all my responses for users questions on this topic will... show up. I hope you got a chance to read all my messages on the subject and took proper decision that is ethically & morally right and the decision that you can live peacefully with for the rest... of your lives. Consult with gynecologist before doing anything drastic. Ask yourself these questions.. Am I in the right state of mind? Will I be able live with this decision for the rest of my life or lives if two of you are involved? Do you have a right to abort a life created by God? These questions you need ask yourself, Carefully go through my previous answers to questions on such subjects and do the sensible and right thing. Why don't you find something better and meaningful in life? Pls use your time to do good things in life. Think carefully before using the unwanted kit. Is your inner consciousness allowing you to do this? Is this morally right ? Am I in the right state of mind? Will I be able live with this decision for the rest of my life or lives if two of you are involved? Do you have a right to abort a life created by God? These questions you need ask yourself, Carefully go through my previous answers to questions on such subjects and do the sensible and right thing. Believe me a few years from now you will really feel very happy that you took the right decision..Type in SaiVeera and you will see all my answers on this subject. Good Luck

Saiveera answer on 14 Jul '14 at 16:50

It is very obvious that this baby is meant to be born. Consult with gynecologist before doing anything drastic. Ask yourself these questions.. Am I in the right state of mind? Will I be able live with this decision for the rest of my life or lives if two of you are involved? Do you have a right to abort a life created by God? These questions you need ask yourself, Carefully go through my previous answers to questions on such subjects and do the sensible and right thing. Why don't you find something better and meaningful in life? Pls use your time to do good things in life. Think carefully before using the unwanted kit. Is your inner consciousness allowing you to do this? Is this morally right ? Am I in the right state of mind? Will I be able live with this decision for the rest of my life or lives if two of you are involved? Do you have a right to abort a life created by God? These questions you need ask yourself, Carefully go through my previous answers to questions on such subjects and do the sensible and right thing. Believe me a few years from now you will really feel very happy that you took the right decision..Type in SaiVeera and you will see all my answers on this subject. Good Luck Please read my very personal heartwrenching experience before taking such a crucial decision. My dear pls don't opt for abortion unless your life is in danger. After 15 yrs I am greatly repenting it. We have been going through lot of pain and suffering for opting for abortion. After terminating the pregnancy we returned home not still realizing what we had done. All of our pain and suffering began and here is the sequence of all major ones In 1997 our son fell all the way down from 10-15 staircase and was rushed to the hospital to make sure his head was Okay. BY God?s grace he only had a huge bump in front of his head In 1998 our son (who was 8 years old) suddenly had appendicitis and had to rush him for surgery. In 1999 our daughter had suddenly fainted and had a seizure in a church gathered for some school event. We were totally terrified as to what caused it so suddenly. A lot of tests were done and discovered that a tapeworm entered her brain although she is very careful with eating food but just didn?t know how she got it. Everyone was puzzled. We were completely traumatized by this terrible attack. She went through a lot of emotional and physical pain and suffering. Fluid was drawn from her back for further diagnosis. She was put on powerful neurological medicines and it took her along time to recover. In April 2000 I went for a colonoscopy because the doctor suggested it due to my stomach problems and my colon was perforated. He sent me home and told me eat not realizing he perforated me. Right after eating I got severe pain and chills and was rushed to the hospital. The doctor wanted to just put me on antibiotics instead of doing surgery which resulted in the infection spreading and ended with peritonitis which was excruciating painful like hell. I had to be rushed for emergency surgery to repair the colon. After the surgery I developed several complications, Suddenly my pulse was going down and they had to put me on Oxygen and discovered that I had fluid in my lungs so they aspirated the fluid with a needle which was very painful. Everyday a needle was poked in my stomach to prevent blood clotting. I was still not getting better, I had fever and chills and they discovered I had a infection and I was treated for that. I was in the hospital for 15 days. Every single day I was poked by needles. That is very unusual in America. Meanwhile my husband and children were really going through a lot emotionally and trying to manage everything without me. In 2001 our son suddenly developed a foot problem and his ankle was swollen and he had to go for surgery to fix the problem. It was a very long recovery process. He was in crutches for 2 months and my husband was giving him bath everyday. It was very painful for us to see our son suffer so much In 2002 my husband had problem with a gland in his neck and a biopsy was done and by god?s grace everything was normal. In 2003 I had to get my galbladder out as it got inflamed during my original surgery. I had complications during this surgery too and lost lot of blood and in addition I was worried about my daughter situation. In 2004 I was rushed to the hospital for severe stomach pain and it was some kind of stomach virus. In 2005 I had to go for surgery to get the incisional hernia repaired which developed as a consequence of the original surgery. Both my husband and I realized that all this pain and suffering is because of the heinous crime we committed. We are getting solace from prayers and visiting the pilgrimage places as Badrinath, Kedarnathand and Vaishno Devi and taking bath in Holy river Ganges. We are willing to take any punishment given to us but begging God to not punish our children. We are deeply and genuinely repenting the blunder we committed and it was not intentional but due to sheer ignorance. Children are a bundle of joy and terminating pregnancy will haunt you for the rest of your life. I think we were not in the right state of mind when we took that decision. Our pain and suffering continues to this day. I can never ever forgive myself for what I did. 2..... Consult a gynecologist immediately before she takes anything. It is very dangerous for both the baby and the mother to do anything on your own at this stage of pregnancy. If you are a good person you will take care of her and do the right thing and your life will also be good. Did you even think for a minute how lucky you are that this didn't happen to you when you were in your mother's womb. How can you contemplate such terrible thought. Why have love and get your girl friend or wife pregnant when you are not ready to have a baby and take the responsibilty. Why don't you take proper precautions. Try to lead a life that is morally & ethically right. Do you have a conscious and a heart? Are you not a human being? Do you know that abortion means killing a baby that is yet to be born. You may think that you are having a great time and lot of enjoyment now but remember you will have to suffer & face consequences in future for your actions now. Why do want to accumulate so much bad karma. Pls read all my responses and messages on this matter before you decide to take this drastic step. If you search for saiveera in the search box all my responses for users questions on this topic will... show up. I hope you got a chance to read all my messages on the subject and took proper decision that is ethically & morally right and the decision that you can live peacefully with for the rest... of your lives.

Saiveera answer on 14 Jul '14 at 17:00

Please read my very personal heartwrenching experience before taking such a crucial decision. My dear pls don't opt for abortion unless your life is in danger. After 15 yrs I am greatly repenting it. We have been going through lot of pain and suffering for opting for abortion. After terminating the pregnancy we returned home not still realizing what we had done. All of our pain and suffering began and here is the sequence of all major ones In 1997 our son fell all the way down from 10-15 staircase and was rushed to the hospital to make sure his head was Okay. BY God?s grace he only had a huge bump in front of his head In 1998 our son (who was 8 years old) suddenly had appendicitis and had to rush him for surgery. In 1999 our daughter had suddenly fainted and had a seizure in a church gathered for some school event. We were totally terrified as to what caused it so suddenly. A lot of tests were done and discovered that a tapeworm entered her brain although she is very careful with eating food but just didn?t know how she got it. Everyone was puzzled. We were completely traumatized by this terrible attack. She went through a lot of emotional and physical pain and suffering. Fluid was drawn from her back for further diagnosis. She was put on powerful neurological medicines and it took her along time to recover. In April 2000 I went for a colonoscopy because the doctor suggested it due to my stomach problems and my colon was perforated. He sent me home and told me eat not realizing he perforated me. Right after eating I got severe pain and chills and was rushed to the hospital. The doctor wanted to just put me on antibiotics instead of doing surgery which resulted in the infection spreading and ended with peritonitis which was excruciating painful like hell. I had to be rushed for emergency surgery to repair the colon. After the surgery I developed several complications, Suddenly my pulse was going down and they had to put me on Oxygen and discovered that I had fluid in my lungs so they aspirated the fluid with a needle which was very painful. Everyday a needle was poked in my stomach to prevent blood clotting. I was still not getting better, I had fever and chills and they discovered I had a infection and I was treated for that. I was in the hospital for 15 days. Every single day I was poked by needles. That is very unusual in America. Meanwhile my husband and children were really going through a lot emotionally and trying to manage everything without me. In 2001 our son suddenly developed a foot problem and his ankle was swollen and he had to go for surgery to fix the problem. It was a very long recovery process. He was in crutches for 2 months and my husband was giving him bath everyday. It was very painful for us to see our son suffer so much In 2002 my husband had problem with a gland in his neck and a biopsy was done and by god?s grace everything was normal. In 2003 I had to get my galbladder out as it got inflamed during my original surgery. I had complications during this surgery too and lost lot of blood and in addition I was worried about my daughter situation. In 2004 I was rushed to the hospital for severe stomach pain and it was some kind of stomach virus. In 2005 I had to go for surgery to get the incisional hernia repaired which developed as a consequence of the original surgery. Both my husband and I realized that all this pain and suffering is because of the heinous crime we committed. We are getting solace from prayers and visiting the pilgrimage places as Badrinath, Kedarnathand and Vaishno Devi and taking bath in Holy river Ganges. We are willing to take any punishment given to us but begging God to not punish our children. We are deeply and genuinely repenting the blunder we committed and it was not intentional but due to sheer ignorance. Children are a bundle of joy and terminating pregnancy will haunt you for the rest of your life. I think we were not in the right state of mind when we took that decision. Our pain and suffering continues to this day. I can never ever forgive myself for what I did. 2..... Consult a gynecologist immediately before she takes anything. It is very dangerous for both the baby and the mother to do anything on your own at this stage of pregnancy. If you are a good person you will take care of her and do the right thing and your life will also be good. Did you even think for a minute how lucky you are that this didn't happen to you when you were in your mother's womb. How can you contemplate such terrible thought. Why have love and get your girl friend or wife pregnant when you are not ready to have a baby and take the responsibilty. Why don't you take proper precautions. Try to lead a life that is morally & ethically right. Do you have a conscious and a heart? Are you not a human being? Do you know that abortion means killing a baby that is yet to be born. You may think that you are having a great time and lot of enjoyment now but remember you will have to suffer & face consequences in future for your actions now. Why do want to accumulate so much bad karma. Pls read all my responses and messages on this matter before you decide to take this drastic step. If you search for saiveera in the search box all my responses for users questions on this topic will... show up. I hope you got a chance to read all my messages on the subject and took proper decision that is ethically & morally right and the decision that you can live peacefully with for the rest... of your lives. Consult with gynecologist before doing anything drastic. Ask yourself these questions.. Am I in the right state of mind? Will I be able live with this decision for the rest of my life or lives if two of you are involved? Do you have a right to abort a life created by God? These questions you need ask yourself, Carefully go through my previous answers to questions on such subjects and do the sensible and right thing. Why don't you find something better and meaningful in life? Pls use your time to do good things in life. Think carefully before using the unwanted kit. Is your inner consciousness allowing you to do this? Is this morally right ? Am I in the right state of mind? Will I be able live with this decision for the rest of my life or lives if two of you are involved? Do you have a right to abort a life created by God? These questions you need ask yourself, Carefully go through my previous answers to questions on such subjects and do the sensible and right thing. Believe me a few years from now you will really feel very happy that you took the right decision..Type in SaiVeera and you will see all my answers on this subject. Good Luck

Saiveera answer on 28 Jul '14 at 17:48

Please read my very personal heartwrenching experience before taking such a crucial decision. My dear pls don't opt for abortion unless your life is in danger. After 15 yrs I am greatly repenting it. We have been going through lot of pain and suffering for opting for abortion. After terminating the pregnancy we returned home not still realizing what we had done. All of our pain and suffering began and here is the sequence of all major ones In 1997 our son fell all the way down from 10-15 staircase and was rushed to the hospital to make sure his head was Okay. BY God?s grace he only had a huge bump in front of his head In 1998 our son (who was 8 years old) suddenly had appendicitis and had to rush him for surgery. In 1999 our daughter had suddenly fainted and had a seizure in a church gathered for some school event. We were totally terrified as to what caused it so suddenly. A lot of tests were done and discovered that a tapeworm entered her brain although she is very careful with eating food but just didn?t know how she got it. Everyone was puzzled. We were completely traumatized by this terrible attack. She went through a lot of emotional and physical pain and suffering. Fluid was drawn from her back for further diagnosis. She was put on powerful neurological medicines and it took her along time to recover. In April 2000 I went for a colonoscopy because the doctor suggested it due to my stomach problems and my colon was perforated. He sent me home and told me eat not realizing he perforated me. Right after eating I got severe pain and chills and was rushed to the hospital. The doctor wanted to just put me on antibiotics instead of doing surgery which resulted in the infection spreading and ended with peritonitis which was excruciating painful like hell. I had to be rushed for emergency surgery to repair the colon. After the surgery I developed several complications, Suddenly my pulse was going down and they had to put me on Oxygen and discovered that I had fluid in my lungs so they aspirated the fluid with a needle which was very painful. Everyday a needle was poked in my stomach to prevent blood clotting. I was still not getting better, I had fever and chills and they discovered I had a infection and I was treated for that. I was in the hospital for 15 days. Every single day I was poked by needles. That is very unusual in America. Meanwhile my husband and children were really going through a lot emotionally and trying to manage everything without me. In 2001 our son suddenly developed a foot problem and his ankle was swollen and he had to go for surgery to fix the problem. It was a very long recovery process. He was in crutches for 2 months and my husband was giving him bath everyday. It was very painful for us to see our son suffer so much In 2002 my husband had problem with a gland in his neck and a biopsy was done and by god?s grace everything was normal. In 2003 I had to get my galbladder out as it got inflamed during my original surgery. I had complications during this surgery too and lost lot of blood and in addition I was worried about my daughter situation. In 2004 I was rushed to the hospital for severe stomach pain and it was some kind of stomach virus. In 2005 I had to go for surgery to get the incisional hernia repaired which developed as a consequence of the original surgery. Both my husband and I realized that all this pain and suffering is because of the heinous crime we committed. We are getting solace from prayers and visiting the pilgrimage places as Badrinath, Kedarnathand and Vaishno Devi and taking bath in Holy river Ganges. We are willing to take any punishment given to us but begging God to not punish our children. We are deeply and genuinely repenting the blunder we committed and it was not intentional but due to sheer ignorance. Children are a bundle of joy and terminating pregnancy will haunt you for the rest of your life. I think we were not in the right state of mind when we took that decision. Our pain and suffering continues to this day. I can never ever forgive myself for what I did. 2..... Consult a gynecologist immediately before she takes anything. It is very dangerous for both the baby and the mother to do anything on your own at this stage of pregnancy. If you are a good person you will take care of her and do the right thing and your life will also be good. Did you even think for a minute how lucky you are that this didn't happen to you when you were in your mother's womb. How can you contemplate such terrible thought. Why have love and get your girl friend or wife pregnant when you are not ready to have a baby and take the responsibilty. Why don't you take proper precautions. Try to lead a life that is morally & ethically right. Do you have a conscious and a heart? Are you not a human being? Do you know that abortion means killing a baby that is yet to be born. You may think that you are having a great time and lot of enjoyment now but remember you will have to suffer & face consequences in future for your actions now. Why do want to accumulate so much bad karma. Pls read all my responses and messages on this matter before you decide to take this drastic step. If you search for saiveera in the search box all my responses for users questions on this topic will... show up. I hope you got a chance to read all my messages on the subject and took proper decision that is ethically & morally right and the decision that you can live peacefully with for the rest... of your lives. Consult with gynecologist before doing anything drastic. Ask yourself these questions.. Am I in the right state of mind? Will I be able live with this decision for the rest of my life or lives if two of you are involved? Do you have a right to abort a life created by God? These questions you need ask yourself, Carefully go through my previous answers to questions on such subjects and do the sensible and right thing. Why don't you find something better and meaningful in life? Pls use your time to do good things in life. Think carefully before using the unwanted kit. Is your inner consciousness allowing you to do this? Is this morally right ? Am I in the right state of mind? Will I be able live with this decision for the rest of my life or lives if two of you are involved? Do you have a right to abort a life created by God? These questions you need ask yourself, Carefully go through my previous answers to questions on such subjects and do the sensible and right thing. Believe me a few years from now you will really feel very happy that you took the right decision..Type in SaiVeera and you will see all my answers on this subject. Good Luck It is very obvious that this baby is meant to be born. Consult with gynecologist before doing anything drastic. Ask yourself these questions.. Am I in the right state of mind? Will I be able live with this decision for the rest of my life or lives if two of you are involved? Do you have a right to abort a life created by God? These questions you need ask yourself, Carefully go through my previous answers to questions on such subjects and do the sensible and right thing. Why don't you find something better and meaningful in life? Pls use your time to do good things in life. Think carefully before using the unwanted kit. Is your inner consciousness allowing you to do this? Is this morally right ? Am I in the right state of mind? Will I be able live with this decision for the rest of my life or lives if two of you are involved? Do you have a right to abort a life created by God? These questions you need ask yourself, Carefully go through my previous answers to questions on such subjects and do the sensible and right thing. Believe me a few years from now you will really feel very happy that you took the right decision..Type in SaiVeera and you will see all my answers on this subject. Good Luck Please read my very personal heartwrenching experience before taking such a crucial decision. My dear pls don't opt for abortion unless your life is in danger. After 15 yrs I am greatly repenting it. We have been going through lot of pain and suffering for opting for abortion. After terminating the pregnancy we returned home not still realizing what we had done. All of our pain and suffering began and here is the sequence of all major ones In 1997 our son fell all the way down from 10-15 staircase and was rushed to the hospital to make sure his head was Okay. BY God?s grace he only had a huge bump in front of his head In 1998 our son (who was 8 years old) suddenly had appendicitis and had to rush him for surgery. In 1999 our daughter had suddenly fainted and had a seizure in a church gathered for some school event. We were totally terrified as to what caused it so suddenly. A lot of tests were done and discovered that a tapeworm entered her brain although she is very careful with eating food but just didn?t know how she got it. Everyone was puzzled. We were completely traumatized by this terrible attack. She went through a lot of emotional and physical pain and suffering. Fluid was drawn from her back for further diagnosis. She was put on powerful neurological medicines and it took her along time to recover. In April 2000 I went for a colonoscopy because the doctor suggested it due to my stomach problems and my colon was perforated. He sent me home and told me eat not realizing he perforated me. Right after eating I got severe pain and chills and was rushed to the hospital. The doctor wanted to just put me on antibiotics instead of doing surgery which resulted in the infection spreading and ended with peritonitis which was excruciating painful like hell. I had to be rushed for emergency surgery to repair the colon. After the surgery I developed several complications, Suddenly my pulse was going down and they had to put me on Oxygen and discovered that I had fluid in my lungs so they aspirated the fluid with a needle which was very painful. Everyday a needle was poked in my stomach to prevent blood clotting. I was still not getting better, I had fever and chills and they discovered I had a infection and I was treated for that. I was in the hospital for 15 days. Every single day I was poked by needles. That is very unusual in America. Meanwhile my husband and children were really going through a lot emotionally and trying to manage everything without me. In 2001 our son suddenly developed a foot problem and his ankle was swollen and he had to go for surgery to fix the problem. It was a very long recovery process. He was in crutches for 2 months and my husband was giving him bath everyday. It was very painful for us to see our son suffer so much In 2002 my husband had problem with a gland in his neck and a biopsy was done and by god?s grace everything was normal. In 2003 I had to get my galbladder out as it got inflamed during my original surgery. I had complications during this surgery too and lost lot of blood and in addition I was worried about my daughter situation. In 2004 I was rushed to the hospital for severe stomach pain and it was some kind of stomach virus. In 2005 I had to go for surgery to get the incisional hernia repaired which developed as a consequence of the original surgery. Both my husband and I realized that all this pain and suffering is because of the heinous crime we committed. We are getting solace from prayers and visiting the pilgrimage places as Badrinath, Kedarnathand and Vaishno Devi and taking bath in Holy river Ganges. We are willing to take any punishment given to us but begging God to not punish our children. We are deeply and genuinely repenting the blunder we committed and it was not intentional but due to sheer ignorance. Children are a bundle of joy and terminating pregnancy will haunt you for the rest of your life. I think we were not in the right state of mind when we took that decision. Our pain and suffering continues to this day. I can never ever forgive myself for what I did. 2..... Consult a gynecologist immediately before she takes anything. It is very dangerous for both the baby and the mother to do anything on your own at this stage of pregnancy. If you are a good person you will take care of her and do the right thing and your life will also be good. Did you even think for a minute how lucky you are that this didn't happen to you when you were in your mother's womb. How can you contemplate such terrible thought. Why have love and get your girl friend or wife pregnant when you are not ready to have a baby and take the responsibilty. Why don't you take proper precautions. Try to lead a life that is morally & ethically right. Do you have a conscious and a heart? Are you not a human being? Do you know that abortion means killing a baby that is yet to be born. You may think that you are having a great time and lot of enjoyment now but remember you will have to suffer & face consequences in future for your actions now. Why do want to accumulate so much bad karma. Pls read all my responses and messages on this matter before you decide to take this drastic step. If you search for saiveera in the search box all my responses for users questions on this topic will... show up. I hope you got a chance to read all my messages on the subject and took proper decision that is ethically & morally right and the decision that you can live peacefully with for the rest... of your lives