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What causes teen girls to ignore a pregnancy until the birth?

I'm talking about the occasional case of a young woman who somehow ignores a pregnancy until a baby suddenly arrives. This often ends in tragedy when the girl panics and abandons the child. What influences could lead to this behavior? 1) On a small scale - what sort of family dynamics might she have, what sort of personality, etc. What might pre-dispose a young woman to ignoring a pregnancy? 2) On a larger scale, is our society somehow leading to this problem? Is there such shame involved with teen pregnancy? Is it a lack of resources for mothers? Is it an emphasis on career over motherhood? Or, could it be an emphasis on avoiding abortion? Any and all ideas are welcome. A pregnancy is often not seen as a blessing, even for women with adequate resources. Even a surprise pregnancy in a 25 year old with a job is greeted with "oh no!" by friends and family. That's what I mean by "an emphasis on career over motherhood".

Junie asked on 09 May '11 at 17:44

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Doh doh answer on 09 May '11 at 17:44

speaking as a person who was pregnant I can answer the reasons that I did not tell anyone. Yes I knew I was pregnant. Did I try to ignore it? yes I did. My reason (although I know how stupid they are now) was mainly fear. Fear my mother would disown me, fear my boyfriend would leave me, fear that my friends would no longer want to be around me. Fear that my older sister would kill me. Shame that I had let myself get this way. Fear that people at school would find out. I waited so long to tell an "adult" that a doctor would not see me as I was to far along and had not seen a doctor. The only doctor who would take me was the local health department. Now 17 years later and my daughter I gave birth to is now the age I was when she got pregnant. I make sure she is informed and aware of what can happen. I knew she had a steady b/f for a year, I took her down and had her put on birth control. Want to break the cycle.

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Emma . answer on 10 Dec '12 at 14:59

Hi, arpita.. firstly you should be clear if you dont want a baby now or you never again want a baby...if d problem is rite now then it may be difficult but along with the support of your family you can raise it... because usually nobody suggests aborting the first child ...it can cause problems in your pregnancy later on..like fallopian tube blockage and others...but if your not planning for any then get abortion done by taking professional help...

Saiveera answer on 11 Nov '13 at 19:54

My dear pls don't opt for abortion unless your life is in danger. Pls my child I am speaking from my heart, don't go for abortion because you don't want a child now. I know of a woamn in her thirties who got abortion done in her early 20s and now can not get pregnant no mater how much she is trying. You have the golden oppotunity please don't loose it and repent later on in your life. If you want to talk about it I will be glad to help you sort it out dear. After 15 yrs I am greatly repenting it. We have been going through lot of pain and suffering for opting for abortion. After terminating the pregnancy we returned home not still realizing what we had done. All of our pain and suffering began and here is the sequence of all major ones In 1997 our son fell all the way down from 10-15 staircase and was rushed to the hospital to make sure his head was Okay. BY God?s grace he only had a huge bump in front of his head In 1998 our son (who was 8 years old) suddenly had appendicitis and had to rush him for surgery. In 1999 our daughter had suddenly fainted and had a seizure in a church gathered for some school event. We were totally terrified as to what caused it so suddenly. A lot of tests were done and discovered that a tapeworm entered her brain although she is very careful with eating food but just didn?t know how she got it. Everyone was puzzled. We were completely traumatized by this terrible attack. She went through a lot of emotional and physical pain and suffering. Fluid was drawn from her back for further diagnosis. She was put on powerful neurological medicines and it took her along time to recover. In April 2000 I went for a colonoscopy because the doctor suggested it due to my stomach problems and my colon was perforated. He sent me home and told me eat not realizing he perforated me. Right after eating I got severe pain and chills and was rushed to the hospital. The doctor wanted to just put me on antibiotics instead of doing surgery which resulted in the infection spreading and ended with peritonitis which was excruciating painful like hell. I had to be rushed for emergency surgery to repair the colon. After the surgery I developed several complications, Suddenly my pulse was going down and they had to put me on Oxygen and discovered that I had fluid in my lungs so they aspirated the fluid with a needle which was very painful. Everyday a needle was poked in my stomach to prevent blood clotting. I was still not getting better, I had fever and chills and they discovered I had a infection and I was treated for that. I was in the hospital for 15 days. Every single day I was poked by needles. That is very unusual in America. Meanwhile my husband and children were really going through a lot emotionally and trying to manage everything without me. In 2001 our son suddenly developed a foot problem and his ankle was swollen and he had to go for surgery to fix the problem. It was a very long recovery process. He was in crutches for 2 months and my husband was giving him bath everyday. It was very painful for us to see our son suffer so much In 2002 my husband had problem with a gland in his neck and a biopsy was done and by god?s grace everything was normal. In 2003 I had to get my galbladder out as it got inflamed during my original surgery. I had complications during this surgery too and lost lot of blood and in addition I was worried about my daughter situation. In 2004 I was rushed to the hospital for severe stomach pain and it was some kind of stomach virus. In 2005 I had to go for surgery to get the incisional hernia repaired which developed as a consequence of the original surgery. Both my husband and I realized that all this pain and suffering is because of the heinous crime we committed. We are getting solace from prayers and visiting the pilgrimage places as Badrinath, Kedarnathand and Vaishno Devi and taking bath in Holy river Ganges. We are willing to take any punishment given to us but begging God to not punish our children. We are deeply and genuinely repenting the blunder we committed and it was not intentional but due to sheer ignorance. Children are a bundle of joy and terminating pregnancy will haunt you for the rest of your life. I think we were not in the right state of mind when we took that decision. Our pain and suffering continues to this day. I can never ever forgive myself for what I did. I know three other people who got abortions done and they are going hell just like me but in a different way. One's person's husband all of sudden fell and his brain got affected and he has become mentally insane and the wife is going through hell taking care of him. Another person got abortion after having a child and felt she did not want anymore but due to sickness she lost her only child and can not conceive anymore. Another family is going through severe financial losses and her husband also had a heartattack and their situation is also very pathetic. I am begging young girls and newly married mowmen to please, first of all do not get pergrant if you are not ready and secondly if you are pregnant please do not opt for abortion unless your life is in danger. If you can't take care of the baby give it for abortion. You may respond back to me if you have any doubts or questions. My goal is to help make you a wise, correct and educated decision and also save the innocent unborn babies. I don't want anyone to suffer like we did.I genuinely want to help you.

Saiveera answer on 18 Nov '13 at 19:23

How can you be heartless and use such awful words as ?destroy?. Do you know that what you want to destroy is a human life? All girls and women need to think carefully and take precautions not to get pregnant if you are not ready. An embryo already has life in it, so don't think you are not aborting a life. For your sensual enjoyment you want to sacrfice a life? Girls be firm with your BFs, as life is created in your wombs not in your BFs. It will be very easy for them to tell you to get the abortion done as they have enjoyed and got what they wanted from you. You are the ones that end up messing up your lives and are left with max problems and a very uncertain future. I am sure some of you who got abortions done are reading this response and how many of you are really happy now? How many of you feel you took the right decision to go for abortion? Prevention is the best method and safest for you and your wellbeing & future life. You will not have any regrets and trust me your life will go smoothly. My dear I don?t do it .I don't know how old you are but pls don't opt for abortion unless your life is in danger. Pls my child I am speaking from my heart, don't go for abortion because you don't want a child now. I am not trying to scare you but pls read the facts below and atleast give the baby for adoption but pls don?t kill it.I know of a woman in her thirties who got abortion done in her early 20s and now can not get pregnant no mater how much she is trying. You have the golden oppotunity please don't loose it and repent later on in your life. If you want to talk about it I will be glad to help you sort it out dear. I am telling my personal experience so young women will think before taking such a drastic measure. After 15 yrs I am greatly repenting it. We have been going through lot of pain and suffering for opting for abortion. After terminating the pregnancy we returned home not still realizing what we had done. All of our pain and suffering began and here is the sequence of all major ones In 1997 our son fell all the way down from 10-15 staircase and was rushed to the hospital to make sure his head was Okay. BY God?s grace he only had a huge bump in front of his head In 1998 our son (who was 8 years old) suddenly had appendicitis and had to rush him for surgery. In 1999 our daughter had suddenly fainted and had a seizure in a church gathered for some school event. We were totally terrified as to what caused it so suddenly. A lot of tests were done and discovered that a tapeworm entered her brain although she is very careful with eating food but just didn?t know how she got it. Everyone was puzzled. We were completely traumatized by this terrible attack. She went through a lot of emotional and physical pain and suffering. Fluid was drawn from her back for further diagnosis. She was put on powerful neurological medicines and it took her along time to recover. In April 2000 I went for a colonoscopy because the doctor suggested it due to my stomach problems and my colon was perforated. He sent me home and told me eat not realizing he perforated me. Right after eating I got severe pain and chills and was rushed to the hospital. The doctor wanted to just put me on antibiotics instead of doing surgery which resulted in the infection spreading and ended with peritonitis which was excruciating painful like hell. I had to be rushed for emergency surgery to repair the colon. After the surgery I developed several complications, Suddenly my pulse was going down and they had to put me on Oxygen and discovered that I had fluid in my lungs, so they aspirated the fluid with a needle which was very painful. Everyday a needle was poked in my stomach to prevent blood clotting. I was still not getting better, I had fever and chills and they discovered I had a infection and I was treated for that. I was in the hospital for 15 days. Every single day I was poked by needles. That is very unusual in America. Meanwhile my husband and children were really going through a lot emotionally and trying to manage everything without me. In 2001 our son suddenly developed a foot problem and his ankle was swollen and he had to go for surgery to fix the problem. It was a very long recovery process. He was in crutches for 2 months and my husband was giving him bath everyday. It was very painful for us to see our son suffer so much In 2002 my husband had problem with a gland in his neck and a biopsy was done and by god?s grace everything was normal. In 2003 I had to get my galbladder out as it got inflamed during my original surgery. I had complications during this surgery too and lost lot of blood and in addition I was worried about my daughter situation as she got herself in a very complicated situation. In 2004, I was rushed to the hospital for severe stomach pain and it was some kind of stomach virus. In 2005, I had to go for surgery to get the incisional hernia repaired which developed as a consequence of the original surgery. Both my husband and I realized that all this pain and suffering is because of the heinous hatya we committed. We are getting solace from prayers and visiting the pilgrimage places as Badrinath, Kedarnathand and Vaishno Devi and taking bath in Holy river Ganges. We are willing to take any punishment given to us but begging God to not punish our children. We are deeply and genuinely repenting the blunder we committed and it was not intentional but due to sheer ignorance. Children are a bundle of joy and terminating pregnancy will haunt you for the rest of your life. I think we were not in the right state of mind when we took that decision. Our pain and suffering continues to this day. I can never ever forgive myself for what I did. I know three other people who got abortions done and they are going hell just like me but in a different way. One's person's husband all of sudden fell and his brain got affected and he has become mentally insane and the wife is going through hell taking care of him. Another person got abortion after having a child and felt she did not want anymore but due to sickness she lost her only child and can not conceive anymore. Another family is going through severe financial losses and her husband also had a heartattack and their situation is also very pathetic. I am begging young girls and newly married mowmen to please, first of all do not get pregnant if you are not ready and secondly if you are pregnant please do not opt for abortion unless your life is in danger. If you can't take care of the baby give it for adoption. You may respond back to me if you have any doubts or questions.I hope you understand why I am writing all this is to prevent all of you from making the same mistake and blunder I committed. My goal is to help make you think and take a wise, correct and educated decision that is ethically and morally right and also save the innocent unborn babies. I don't want anyone to suffer like we did.I genuinely want to help you.

Saiveera answer on 04 Jan '14 at 21:11

How can you be heartless and use such awful words as destroy?. Do you know that what you want to destroy is a human life? All girls and women need to think carefully and take precautions not to get pregnant if you are not ready. An embryo already has life in it, so don't think you are not aborting a life. For your sensual enjoyment you want to sacrfice a life? Poor Girls fall for you guys sweet words, It will be very easy for guys to tell GFs to get the abortion done as they have enjoyed and got what they wanted from girls. The poor girls are the ones that end up messing up their lives and are left with max problems and a very uncertain future. I am sure some of you who got abortions done are reading this response and how many of you are really happy now? How many of you feel you took the right decision to go for abortion? Prevention is the best method and safest for you and your wellbeing & future life. You will not have any regrets and trust me your life will go smoothly. .I don't know how old you are but pls don't opt for abortion unless the mother's life is in danger. I am speaking from my heart, don't go for abortion because you don't want a child now. I am not trying to scare you but pls read the facts below and atleast give the baby for adoption but pls do not kill it. Pls discuss with your doctor before doing anything on your own. 4 weeks is already late the baby already starts to form. I know of a woman in her thirties who got abortion done in her early 20s and now can not get pregnant no mater how much she is trying. You have the golden oppotunity please don't loose it and repent later on in your life. If you want to talk about it I will be glad to help you sort it out. I am telling my personal experience so young women will think before taking such a drastic measure. After 15 yrs I am greatly repenting it. We have been going through lot of pain and suffering for opting for abortion. After terminating the pregnancy we returned home not still realizing what we had done. All of our pain and suffering began and here is the sequence of all major ones In 1997 our son fell all the way down from 10-15 staircase and was rushed to the hospital to make sure his head was Okay. BY God?s grace he only had a huge bump in front of his head In 1998 our son (who was 8 years old) suddenly had appendicitis and had to rush him for surgery. In 1999 our daughter had suddenly fainted and had a seizure in a church gathered for some school event. We were totally terrified as to what caused it so suddenly. A lot of tests were done and discovered that a tapeworm entered her brain although she is very careful with eating food but just didn?t know how she got it. Everyone was puzzled. We were completely traumatized by this terrible attack. She went through a lot of emotional and physical pain and suffering. Fluid was drawn from her back for further diagnosis. She was put on powerful neurological medicines and it took her along time to recover. In April 2000 I went for a colonoscopy because the doctor suggested it due to my stomach problems and my colon was perforated. He sent me home and told me eat not realizing he perforated me. Right after eating I got severe pain and chills and was rushed to the hospital. The doctor wanted to just put me on antibiotics instead of doing surgery which resulted in the infection spreading and ended with peritonitis which was excruciating painful like hell. I had to be rushed for emergency surgery to repair the colon. After the surgery I developed several complications, Suddenly my pulse was going down and they had to put me on Oxygen and discovered that I had fluid in my lungs, so they aspirated the fluid with a needle which was very painful. Everyday a needle was poked in my stomach to prevent blood clotting. I was still not getting better, I had fever and chills and they discovered I had a infection and I was treated for that. I was in the hospital for 15 days. Every single day I was poked by needles. That is very unusual in America. Meanwhile my husband and children were really going through a lot emotionally and trying to manage everything without me. In 2001 our son suddenly developed a foot problem and his ankle was swollen and he had to go for surgery to fix the problem. It was a very long recovery process. He was in crutches for 2 months and my husband was giving him bath everyday. It was very painful for us to see our son suffer so much In 2002 my husband had problem with a gland in his neck and a biopsy was done and by god?s grace everything was normal. In 2003 I had to get my galbladder out as it got inflamed during my original surgery. I had complications during this surgery too and lost lot of blood and in addition I was worried about my daughter situation as she got herself in a very complicated situation. In 2004, I was rushed to the hospital for severe stomach pain and it was some kind of stomach virus. In 2005, I had to go for surgery to get the incisional hernia repaired which developed as a consequence of the original surgery. Both my husband and I realized that all this pain and suffering is because of the heinous hatya we committed. We are getting solace from prayers and visiting the pilgrimage places as Badrinath, Kedarnathand and Vaishno Devi and taking bath in Holy river Ganges. We are willing to take any punishment given to us but begging God to not punish our children. We are deeply and genuinely repenting the blunder we committed and it was not intentional but due to sheer ignorance. Children are a bundle of joy and terminating pregnancy will haunt you for the rest of your life. I think we were not in the right state of mind when we took that decision. Our pain and suffering continues to this day. I can never ever forgive myself for what I did. I know three other people who got abortions done and they are going hell just like me but in a different way. One's person's husband all of sudden fell and his brain got affected and he has become mentally insane and the wife is going through hell taking care of him. Another person got abortion after having a child and felt she did not want anymore but due to sickness she lost her only child and can not conceive anymore. Another family is going through severe financial losses and her husband also had a heartattack and their situation is also very pathetic. I am begging young girls and newly married mowmen to please, first of all do not get pregnant if you are not ready and secondly if you are pregnant please do not opt for abortion unless your life is in danger. If you can't take care of the baby give it for adoption. You may respond back to me if you have any doubts or questions.I hope you understand why I am writing all this is to prevent all of you from making the same mistake and blunder I committed. My goal is to help make you think and take a wise, correct and educated decision that is ethically and morally right and also save the innocent unborn babies. I don't want anyone to suffer like we did.I genuinely want to help you. Discuss with experts before taking any drastic actions. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Saiveera answer on 11 Jul '14 at 18:17

Is anybody out there planning to have an abortion? Please read my very personal heartwrenching experience before taking such a crucial decision. My dear pls don't opt for abortion unless your life is in danger. After 15 yrs I am greatly repenting it. We have been going through lot of pain and suffering for opting for abortion. After terminating the pregnancy we returned home not still realizing what we had done. All of our pain and suffering began and here is the sequence of all major ones In 1997 our son fell all the way down from 10-15 staircase and was rushed to the hospital to make sure his head was Okay. BY God?s grace he only had a huge bump in front of his head In 1998 our son (who was 8 years old) suddenly had appendicitis and had to rush him for surgery. In 1999 our daughter had suddenly fainted and had a seizure in a church gathered for some school event. We were totally terrified as to what caused it so suddenly. A lot of tests were done and discovered that a tapeworm entered her brain although she is very careful with eating food but just didn?t know how she got it. Everyone was puzzled. We were completely traumatized by this terrible attack. She went through a lot of emotional and physical pain and suffering. Fluid was drawn from her back for further diagnosis. She was put on powerful neurological medicines and it took her along time to recover. In April 2000 I went for a colonoscopy because the doctor suggested it due to my stomach problems and my colon was perforated. He sent me home and told me eat not realizing he perforated me. Right after eating I got severe pain and chills and was rushed to the hospital. The doctor wanted to just put me on antibiotics instead of doing surgery which resulted in the infection spreading and ended with peritonitis which was excruciating painful like hell. I had to be rushed for emergency surgery to repair the colon. After the surgery I developed several complications, Suddenly my pulse was going down and they had to put me on Oxygen and discovered that I had fluid in my lungs so they aspirated the fluid with a needle which was very painful. Everyday a needle was poked in my stomach to prevent blood clotting. I was still not getting better, I had fever and chills and they discovered I had a infection and I was treated for that. I was in the hospital for 15 days. Every single day I was poked by needles. That is very unusual in America. Meanwhile my husband and children were really going through a lot emotionally and trying to manage everything without me. In 2001 our son suddenly developed a foot problem and his ankle was swollen and he had to go for surgery to fix the problem. It was a very long recovery process. He was in crutches for 2 months and my husband was giving him bath everyday. It was very painful for us to see our son suffer so much In 2002 my husband had problem with a gland in his neck and a biopsy was done and by god?s grace everything was normal. In 2003 I had to get my galbladder out as it got inflamed during my original surgery. I had complications during this surgery too and lost lot of blood and in addition I was worried about my daughter situation. In 2004 I was rushed to the hospital for severe stomach pain and it was some kind of stomach virus. In 2005 I had to go for surgery to get the incisional hernia repaired which developed as a consequence of the original surgery. Both my husband and I realized that all this pain and suffering is because of the heinous crime we committed. We are getting solace from prayers and visiting the pilgrimage places as Badrinath, Kedarnathand and Vaishno Devi and taking bath in Holy river Ganges. We are willing to take any punishment given to us but begging God to not punish our children. We are deeply and genuinely repenting the blunder we committed and it was not intentional but due to sheer ignorance. Children are a bundle of joy and terminating pregnancy will haunt you for the rest of your life. I think we were not in the right state of mind when we took that decision. Our pain and suffering continues to this day. I can never ever forgive myself for what I did How can you be heartless and use such awful words as destroy?. Do you know that what you want to destroy is a human life? All girls and women need to think carefully and take precautions not to get pregnant if you are not ready. An embryo already has life in it, so don't think you are not aborting a life. For your sensual enjoyment you want to sacrfice a life? Poor Girls fall for you guys sweet words, It will be very easy for guys to tell GFs to get the abortion done as they have enjoyed and got what they wanted from girls. The poor girls are the ones that end up messing up their lives and are left with max problems and a very uncertain future. I am sure some of you who got abortions done are reading this response and how many of you are really happy now? How many of you feel you took the right decision to go for abortion? Prevention is the best method and safest for you and your wellbeing & future life. You will not have any regrets and trust me your life will go smoothly. .I don't know how old you are but pls don't opt for abortion unless the mother's life is in danger. I am speaking from my heart, don't go for abortion because you don't want a child now. I am not trying to scare you but pls read the facts below and atleast give the baby for adoption but pls do not kill it. Pls discuss with your doctor before doing anything on your own. 4 weeks is already late the baby already starts to form. I know of a woman in her thirties who got abortion done in her early 20s and now can not get pregnant no mater how much she is trying. You have the golden oppotunity please don't loose it and repent later on in your life. If you want to talk about it I will be glad to help you sort it out. I am telling my personal experience so young women will think before taking such a drastic measure. After 15 yrs I am greatly repenting it. We have been going through lot of pain and suffering for opting for abortion. After terminating the pregnancy we returned home not still realizing what we had done. All of our pain and suffering began and here is the sequence of all major ones In 1997 our son fell all the way down from 10-15 staircase and was rushed to the hospital to make sure his head was Okay. BY God?s grace he only had a huge bump in front of his head In 1998 our son (who was 8 years old) suddenly had appendicitis and had to rush him for surgery. In 1999 our daughter had suddenly fainted and had a seizure in a church gathered for some school event. We were totally terrified as to what caused it so suddenly. A lot of tests were done and discovered that a tapeworm entered her brain although she is very careful with eating food but just didn?t know how she got it. Everyone was puzzled. We were completely traumatized by this terrible attack. She went through a lot of emotional and physical pain and suffering. Fluid was drawn from her back for further diagnosis. She was put on powerful neurological medicines and it took her along time to recover. In April 2000 I went for a colonoscopy because the doctor suggested it due to my stomach problems and my colon was perforated. He sent me home and told me eat not realizing he perforated me. Right after eating I got severe pain and chills and was rushed to the hospital. The doctor wanted to just put me on antibiotics instead of doing surgery which resulted in the infection spreading and ended with peritonitis which was excruciating painful like hell. I had to be rushed for emergency surgery to repair the colon. After the surgery I developed several complications, Suddenly my pulse was going down and they had to put me on Oxygen and discovered that I had fluid in my lungs, so they aspirated the fluid with a needle which was very painful. Everyday a needle was poked in my stomach to prevent blood clotting. I was still not getting better, I had fever and chills and they discovered I had a infection and I was treated for that. I was in the hospital for 15 days. Every single day I was poked by needles. That is very unusual in America. Meanwhile my husband and children were really going through a lot emotionally and trying to manage everything without me. In 2001 our son suddenly developed a foot problem and his ankle was swollen and he had to go for surgery to fix the problem. It was a very long recovery process. He was in crutches for 2 months and my husband was giving him bath everyday. It was very painful for us to see our son suffer so much In 2002 my husband had problem with a gland in his neck and a biopsy was done and by god?s grace everything was normal. In 2003 I had to get my galbladder out as it got inflamed during my original surgery. I had complications during this surgery too and lost lot of blood and in addition I was worried about my daughter situation as she got herself in a very complicated situation. In 2004, I was rushed to the hospital for severe stomach pain and it was some kind of stomach virus. In 2005, I had to go for surgery to get the incisional hernia repaired which developed as a consequence of the original surgery. Both my husband and I realized that all this pain and suffering is because of the heinous hatya we committed. We are getting solace from prayers and visiting the pilgrimage places as Badrinath, Kedarnathand and Vaishno Devi and taking bath in Holy river Ganges. We are willing to take any punishment given to us but begging God to not punish our children. We are deeply and genuinely repenting the blunder we committed and it was not intentional but due to sheer ignorance. Children are a bundle of joy and terminating pregnancy will haunt you for the rest of your life. I think we were not in the right state of mind when we took that decision. Our pain and suffering continues to this day. I can never ever forgive myself for what I did. I know three other people who got abortions done and they are going hell just like me but in a different way. One's person's husband all of sudden fell and his brain got affected and he has become mentally insane and the wife is going through hell taking care of him. Another person got abortion after having a child and felt she did not want anymore but due to sickness she lost her only child and can not conceive anymore. Another family is going through severe financial losses and her husband also had a heartattack and their situation is also very pathetic. I am begging young girls and newly married mowmen to please, first of all do not get pregnant if you are not ready and secondly if you are pregnant please do not opt for abortion unless your life is in danger. If you can't take care of the baby give it for adoption. You may respond back to me if you have any doubts or questions.I hope you understand why I am writing all this is to prevent all of you from making the same mistake and blunder I committed. My goal is to help make you think and take a wise, correct and educated decision that is ethically and morally right and also save the innocent unborn babies. I don't want anyone to suffer like we did.I genuinely want to help you. Discuss with experts before taking any drastic actions. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------